Well, I’m going to go against the grain here, but ESH. You see, I have always been an against-the-grain goer, I grew up on my parent’s farm, I always wanted him to plant the legumes instead of the grains, and also when I was 12 and started shaving (my balls) I would always go against the grain, even if my balls itched like hell afterwards. My father told me on his deathbed, “son dont scratch your balls”, but I would always go against the grain, so this is where I am now. You see, while it is your house, your rules, you should also ensure that you are not putting up any red flags(like my balls after shaving) for your relationship. If not, then they had it coming with all the toxicity and negativity. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.